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Foreign Reflections: Three stories of life in Japan
By Jesse Johnson
 
Foreign Reflections: Three stories of life in Japan
Shinjuku, Tokyo
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iving in Japan isn’t easy for a lot of foreigners. But it isn’t that hard, either.

For Mike Green, Anthony Palmer, and Jay Matvichuk, three people who have more in common than they realize, life here has been a mixed bag. Although they’re from different places and different backgrounds, all found their way to Japan -- for a plethora of reasons -- as missionaries. However, these missionaries weren’t spreading the word of God. They were teaching English. And they weren’t just teachers -- they were students too.

 Fresh off the boat

When Anthony Palmer arrived in Osaka, his first impression could be summed up in one word, “awesome.” The vibrant nightlife, buzzing neon signs and Osakan demeanor was fascinating and new. It was a complete shift from the American south where he had grown up.

“I was the typical greenhorn,” he admitted. “The city seemed so full of life and everything was fresh and exotic.”

Like most fresh off the boat foreigners, he was enthralled to be in a position to see the trends and behaviour that he had read and heard about, while learning a little something about himself in the process.

“I got to see the side of Japan that we never see back in the U.S.,” Palmer said. “I got to see drunken salarymen puking and passed out in front of the station. I got to see grown guys peeing on the side of the road as women and children walked by. I got to see pushy obasans and teeny-boppers break dancing in front of one of the main stations in Osaka. I’ve seen twenty-somethings with afros and cornrows, and I’ve seen girls with bleached blonde hair and bronze skin that makes them look like dolls instead of people.”

Mike Green arrived to something different -- a one room apartment with a balcony view … of a concrete wall. He was looking forward to a different Japan than the one he first met with the Japan Exchange and Teaching Programme (JET).

“I was so bored because there was no excitement down there,” he said of Gotemba, Shizuoka, a town of 85,050 people. “It was a 45 minute train ride into town to see my friends. For three months, my typical day consisted of playing games and watching movies.”

Gotemba wasn’t exactly a thriving metropolis. Nor was it the famed Japanese countryside. Like the classmate who was not quite cool but not quite a loser, Gotemba was somewhere in between; it was not quite a city, yet not quite rural. For Green, this made living there all the more vexing.

“I was bored out of my mind,” he said. “I spent all day looking for jobs in the city.”

And so as one man had discovered a kind of paradise, another had been flung into a personal purgatory. But for Jay Matvichuk, Japan was not a paradise, purgatory, or hell. For him, it was an opportunity.

 The best of both worlds

Husky and sporting what the Japanese call a “skinhead,” or shaved head, Jay Matvichuk is an imposing figure. But the moment he starts talking, any fear you had evaporates at the sound of his voice.

The years of experience he has had in Japan can be easily heard in his words. So, too, can his satisfaction with living here in the land of experiences and possibilities. Aside from a month when he first came to Japan, he lived the life of an English teacher in Fuji City, Shizuoka Prefecture below the mountain of the same name.

 “In Canada, we had a Dairy Queen, I think,” he said jokingly of his hometown, Kamploops, British Columbia. “Fuji felt like a city. Kamloops feels like a city in nature. Kamloops had way more of an outdoorsy feel. All through it there are parks and trees.”

Fuji, on the other hand, was a gray urban area that’s atmosphere reflected its main industry, the immutable paper mills. All 84 of them. While Matvichuk didn’t mind the gray skies and lack of nature in Fuji City, the move from Fuji to the thriving metropolis of Yokohama for a new job clearly energized him and breathed new life into his Japan experience.

“It felt cool,” he said. “I was really stoked to be living in a big city with lots to do and a whole new place to explore.”

 Life in the concrete jungle

Though their experiences differed, both Matvichuk and Green made the leap from their rural and semi-urban outposts. They headed for something completely different -- the gargantuan known as the Tokyo metropolitan area. For a twenty-something Green looking for new friends and experiences, Tokyo signified a chance at redemption for himself and for the Japan he had come to know.

“I was so glad to be out of there and doing something with myself instead of wasting time in front of the computer,” he said. “I should have never lived in that small town in Osaka. I should have come straight to Tokyo.”

Unfortunately, Green has yet to find his niche. He is still struggling with the sometimes perplexing time of working for a Japanese company.

“As much as I hate working at a Japanese bank, I am still here,” he lamented. “The ‘real’ Japan sucks. You never feel like part of the team and you are thought as more of a person to be tolerated than a true member of the group.”

Like many who come to Japan, Green appears to have become stuck in Japan for no concrete reason.

“My reason for staying is actually inertia,” he said. “One day I will leave. But it will not be to home, I hope it will be to Europe.”

Contrarily, Matvichuk’s shift in home and heart had more positive and immediate results.

“All of sudden I had access to foreign stuff,” he said jokingly about his move to Yokohama. “From Costco to Pizza Hut, more often than not, you can get things here.”

But it was his experiences in Fuji that had readied him for the move. He had acquired a knack for the Japanese language and more importantly, he had made a number of close friends.

“When I moved to Fuji, I was raw, a total newbie still,” he said. “I didn’t really speak much Japanese or anything. But when I came to Yokohama, I was more of a member of the society I was moving into. And that makes all the difference in the things you can do.”

 “Get out and do stuff!” The secret to a good time in Japan

The merits of life in both the countryside and the city abound -- as do the bad points. But if you are looking to maximize your experience in Japan, sometimes the negative aspects need to be disregarded. For Palmer, overlooking some of these things was difficult at first.

“The stress began to settle in a few days (after I arrived) because of my weak language skills,” he said.

Palmer believes that many foreigners living in Japan have high stress levels because of the “very different lifestyles.” Add in a famously difficult-to-learn language, and many a foreigner have complained of a seemingly insurmountable challenge, which often ends in failure.

“The Japanese language is very, very difficult,” Palmer said. “And if you can’t read and speak it, you will be very, very isolated, thus further contributing to your stress.”

Matvichuk agrees, but tries to see things from a different perspective -- that of the average Japanese; the man on the street.

“It’s almost rude to not speak Japanese,” he said. “Imagine going into some store and you can’t communicate with the man behind the register. Put yourself in his shoes. He’s just going to work and some guy forces this language on him.”

Matvichuk also thinks that besides learning the language, there are a number of other ways to get the most out of your life in Japan. However, he stresses one above all.

“Get out and do stuff, he said. “You can’t wait for stuff to come to you. Take the initiative.”

 Unconventional mindset

Finding the enigmatic Japan you have imagined isn’t a fool’s errand. Countryside, big city, or wherever you are, it is waiting for you. You just have to be willing to look for it in an unconventional way.

“I think that it’s all in a person’s mindset,” Matvichuk said. “We are all here experiencing pretty much the same outer stimuli, Japan and Japanese culture. There are some people who absolutely hate it here. There are some people who absolutely love it. And there is the majority who are somewhere in between.

"But if the outer stimuli are all the same, then the only difference is in the way we are looking at it.”

 
 

Comments to date: 45. This is page 1 of 5.

Kayla   USA 

Posted at 9:33pm on Friday, November 13th, 2009

I plan on getting a Degree in teaching and moving to Japan to teach English. I would like to make Japan my home, after reading the comments my determination has grown. I am eager to see what my experience in Japan will be like.

piper   iowa 

Posted at 11:14pm on Tuesday, October 13th, 2009

I've been studying Japanese for three years now with the intent to visit one day. I wanted to more about the interreactions with non white, non Asian visitors?

Miguel   Gotemba, Japan 

Posted at 7:26am on Friday, September 11th, 2009

I guess perspective can change a person's attitude to places. I did the opposite to the above and lived 10 years in Tokyo, where I ran a busy export business I started from scratch. I enjoyed living in Tokyo for 10 years, but hated the hot summers and towards the end got sick of all the concrete. I met a beautiful Japanese girl 7 years ago in Tokyo and we got married in 2005. Last year we had our first child and decided we'd like to move to the countryside. So in Jan of 2009 we moved to a small village on the edge of Gotemba. We love it here. There are stunning views of mount Fuji on clear days and lake Yamananako is only 20 minute's drive over a beautiful mountain road. There on days off I can sail my boat and take in the beautiful scenery and spectacular views of Fuji. It's around 5 Degrees Celcius cooler here all the time than in Tokyo, so although the winters are colder, they're crisp - with not much snow and the summers are thankfully bearable!

Like many Gaijins I've met here over the years, I'm a car & motorcycle enthusiast and for such people there are fantastic roads to enjoy "touge" at night, or watch illegal drifting. Fuji Raceway F1 circuit is only minutes away too - where for 6,000 Yen you can have 30 minutes on the racetrack once you have a Fuji licence.

Gotemba isn't a place for debauched night life and loud bars and perhaps it's not an ideal place for young single people. If that's what you're after stick to Tokyo.

But if you're happily settled down and want to have quality of life, with easy access to Tokyo when you want it (1 hour by car), we find Gotemba hard to better.

As for marriage between a foreigner and Japanese, I find no communication problems at all with my wife.

Gotemba is the best place we've found in Japan - to suit our needs.

Suzette   Yokohama 

Posted at 10:16am on Sunday, July 19th, 2009

I am married with Japanese man, we lived together for just for years, first year is really hard for me to adjust in their culture and tradition.

Destination Infinity   Bangalore 

Posted at 12:02am on Monday, June 8th, 2009

This website is interesting. The comments alone gave me a good insight, and I would love to live in Japan for maybe a year. But I think learning the language might be tough - At present, I am not able to differentiate between Chinese and Japanese!! But if they like a Rajinikanth's movie (Tamil - Muthu), I think I can get away being there for a year or so :-)

Destination Infinity
www.destinationinfinity.co.nr

Belle   Mass 

Posted at 12:38pm on Monday, June 1st, 2009

I'm a bit nervous now after reading all of these. I'm actually planning on going over to Japan after I get my degree in English Ed. I love the Japanese culture and have a friend that is from Kyoto. I honestly hope that things go well for me, I'm only going to stay a few years (like 2 or 3), then I'm going to go back to the states to teach.

Aya E   Libya 

Posted at 4:33am on Monday, May 4th, 2009

I love Japan, and I am trying to get an undergraduate scholarship to study there in health and nutrition. I don't look libyan (more asian) and Japan considered to be the country of my dreams! I love it so much that I want to run away and live there forever, maybe marry a Japanese man too... Japan is breath taking and all my years of studying in Canada, I become more and more attached to the country. I hope in the end I will achieve my goal. Can anyone tell me if Muslim girls (wearing hijab like myself) will be accepted well in Japan? arigato gozaimasu^_^

MGS   Chiba 

Posted at 8:16am on Wednesday, April 29th, 2009

A land of isolation for all foreigners. Got be strong to be able to put up with their idiosyncrasies and still be mentally ok. Do you know that depression in Japan has skyrocketted ? Ever wonder what ca** that even among the Japanese, let alone the foreigner.

Danielle   Japan 

Posted at 8:50am on Thursday, April 9th, 2009

I have been living in Japan for awhile. I love but it is not going to be my permanent home. The culture is extremely difficult to get us to after time and japanese do not welcome foreigners who stay more than 2 years.

Carl and a Lonely Tomago are right. You are a foreigner for the fun of it. They love learning from the foreigners but do not welcome the idea of us staying here for too long.
If you looking for a japanese man or woman to just have sex with - check the police department first, sexual harrassment is on the raise and the blaming of foreigners raping, etc them is on the raise.

fortunately i have not been a victim but have witnessed several situations when the relationships were "agreed". After a few outings the woman or man becomes ashamed and determine you are a rapist. Taking the risk to fool around or seek free japanese cla** in exchange for dating/sleeping around with a japanese is not a wise idea.

I am half asian- sadly, you gain alot more respect if you are asian thank if you are caucasian.

Do not be fooled by the "blonde, blue eye" fascination - its only temporary for them and you are in for the ride to either get out of japan or to boast to friends they had a foreigner boyfriend or gf - enough said. Being half asian i have had the luxury of being included and got to learn the true thoughts of the japanese. They are wonderful people as long as you keep an open mind and be respectful.

My best advise if you not asian - stay in japan for a short time, follow the rules, respect the culture and people and keep your mouth shut if you want to get back home safely.

If you want trouble, then do the opposite and you will be happily sitting in a Japanese prison.

a lonely tamago   hiroshima 

Posted at 10:41pm on Wednesday, October 1st, 2008

ok. i am a foreign woman married to a japanese man and currently living in rural japan. its probably not the same for everyone and i suppose tis true that your experience of japan is what YOU make of it, but generally I've found that foreigners who are here for shorter periods of time (examples- holidays, tours, study abroad students, one year English language teachers..etc...) tend to enjoy their experience of japan more than those of us who have to make japan our permanent home and build entirely new lives here.

those impermanent "alien residents" are more easily accepted by society and the local Japanese people seem to have a more relaxed and friendly attitude towards them. whereas when it comes to those of us who have had to obtain Japanese citizenship permanently, they don't seem to quite like or accept us as we are considered neither foreigners nor Japanese.

i often think that if i didn't have a child here i would love to move back to New York. having lived in quite a few different countries as a child and having always attended international schools i vainly assumed that with my varied cultural upbringing and multi lingual skills it would be easy to settle into japan, only to find that japan was completely unlike the US, Europe or even any of the Asian countries i had lived in as a child and young adult.

and as for marrying a Japanese man, it was great the first few years that we were living together in Toronto but after we moved back to japan and had a child i feel like he has become a completely different person, someone i barely even know and someone i am lucky to be able to have dinner together with once or twice a month. also, if you marry a Japanese man you should be aware that you may actually be marrying his mother, not just him. ;-)

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